Tuesday, May 22, 2007

I am a mean, mean mommy

S. decided to have a not so great day at school yesterday. Apparently, she vented her frustrations by spitting on her friends on multiple occasions. Not cool.

When we picked her up, her teachers told us about her little spitfest. The full range of motherly emotions from embarrassment all the way through deep anger swooshed through. However, I managed to take a deep breath and talk to her.

In true mother of the year fashion, I laid into her with a major guilt trip.

Me: How would you feel if your friends spit on you?
S.:
Me: Would it hurt your feelings?
S.: Yes
Me: Don't you think it hurt the feelings of your friends when you spit on them?
S.: Yes
Me: God doesn't want us to treat our friends that way.
S.:
Me: What you did was mean and very rude.
This is when S. starts tearing up.
S.: You're being mean to me, Mommy.
Me: No, I'm making sure you understand that what you did was wrong and hurtful.
After that, she turned into a weepy cling-on for pretty much the rest of the evening.

I feel badly that I made her cry, but it had to be done. She initially thought the whole spitting thing was hilarious. {sigh}

M.W.

6 comments:

TxGambit said...

Oh yes, been there, done that! Sometimes ya gotta make them cry.

She is such a lady, huh? ;) (Just kidding)

Gretchen said...

Sad, yes, but necessary.

joansy said...

Ditto. I hate the conversations, but so much better than letting her go through life without friends or feelings for others. Sometimes mean mommy is the good mommy.

aimee / greeblemonkey said...

Yup, us too. Hang in there babe.

Mayberrys said...

Ditto. Hang in there!!

Keith said...

According to Mr-Klingon.org, which I just found, "No Spitting" in Klingon is gorbe'! Hope this helps.